
A Moment of Solitude
When I start the day with a moment of solitude and
contemplation, even the most crowded schedule runs more
smoothly.
Reversing The Flow Of Love In Relationships
If we ask someone who do they think has caused them the most
sorrow in life, most will point out to someone they love or
had loved a lot. Why is it so? It happens like that because
we believe that the energy of love will come from the
outside and will fill us inside. The energy of love from
the other will fulfill our inner desire for the experience
of love. Due to our own need, we attach ourselves and hold
on to a particular person whom we love a lot, believing that
they will fill us with the love that they possess inside
them, which will make us stronger, fuller and more content.
So we start depending on the other person for this need.
When he/she is not able to fill us, which happens many
times, we experience sorrow. Love is an energy, which
exists inside us. It always goes from the inside out and
reaches out to the other and brings benefit to the other. It
does not come from the outside in. If we try and reverse
the flow of love i.e. we make the energy of love come from
outside in, we start depending on the outside for love,
which results in the vacuuming effect. When you vacuum to
clean your living room, you absorb the good and the bad. If
you have dropped something very small, but valuable and of
utmost importance to you, on your carpet, the vacuum cleaner
absorbs it or takes it away, together with the dust, which
is negative and of no value to you and which you do not want
inside your home. When you live with the vacuuming effect
on an emotional level, you absorb the love, care, concern,
virtues, powers, specialties, energy, etc. of the person you
love but you also end up absorbing their weaknesses, their
worries, their fears, etc. That way, a dependency is
generated that is counter-productive and causes emotional
pain. That does not mean we become cold and stop accepting
love from others, but we are no longer dependent on it for
our inner well-being and happiness. Also, on the other hand,
we keep radiating or giving love. When we give love, we
experience it ourselves first and that's what we want - an
experience of love, isn't it?
Soul Sustenance
Experiencing and Maintaining a State Of Contentment
To reach, experience and maintain a state of contentment or
fulfillment you have to first realize what true freedom is
and then learn how to use it so that it strengthens you and
also helps you to achieve the full potential of your
individual self.
Freedom is the key to contentment. You also need to check
what brings you close to the state of fulfillment and what
takes you away from it. Fears of different kinds are
one of the main obstacles in experiencing contentment. Any
weakness, inability to apply any virtue or spiritual
power required in any situation, lack of focus, inner
instability, etc. will cause a leakage of the energy of
positivity that is required to feel content. Free yourself
of any personality trait that hinders your progress and does
not allow your inner being to manifest itself and express
itself with all its potential. To live in contentment, you
should be in charge of your inner mental and emotional
world. If not, you will only be able to experience temporary
periods of fulfillment. To achieve fulfillment you not
only have to have inner control, but you also need to check
whether there is any door open to allow any weakness to
enter the room of your personality. Because if you
strengthen yourself on the one hand and on the other you are
weakened, you will never reach the desired state of inner
power. E.g. you keep a bucket of water under a tap of water.
If it has even a single crack, however much water you pour
into the bucket, it will never get filled completely. In the
same way, this can happen to you. Because of this, you need
to check, which cracks are present in your personality
through which there are leaks of energy, because of which
your efforts to become content do not give you the results
you hope for.
Message for the day
To work with joy is to be free from tiredness.
Expression:
When there is the happiness and joy of doing something, one
can go on putting in effort even in the most difficult
circumstances. For having done everything with happiness,
there will be the inner quality revealed in each and every
task. The happiness within will spread around to others too.
Experience:
As I never leave my inner joy, and am constantly in touch
with my inner qualities, I am able to enjoy everything that
life brings. Nothing will then be experienced as work, but I
feel everything to be entertainment. I will be able to enjoy
the richness of life even when there is something actually
difficult.
Acceptance
Would you reprimand a young child for their mischievousness
or mistakes? Though it's important to be firm in teaching
discipline, a good parent or care-giver realizes that the
child is innocent of how it should behave. Therefore, the
approach is patient and loving. But what happens when we see
adults making big-little errors? Our mature self makes us
react, comment, argue and say "But they should know
better..." It's true that adults have to be more
responsible for their actions but that's not always the
case. It's in our best interest to accept that no matter
how much we correct people, they are likely to change at
their own time. At times, we all come under the influence of
our sanskars which compel us to act against better judgment.
As we are in the same boat, keeping faith and good wishes
for others (and ourselves) is the best way to guide and
bring about good transformation.