Happiness
There is no nourishment like happiness - it's an elixir.
There is no sickness like sorrow - it's a poison. The
experience of true happiness cures the sickness of
sorrow. A cheerful face goes a long way towards making
everything better!
Detachment
When there is the ability to be in the present, there is
the ability to look at both the past and the future with
detachment. This detachment brings about the best
response to situations. One is not caught up (or
colored) with the events of the past, but is able to
give the best to the present situation. When I am
detached, I am able to take the learning from the past
happenings and move forward towards the future. So I am
naturally able to make the best use of this moment. I
don't lose out to the challenges of the present and am
able to experience constant victory.
Symptoms Of Stress
When we feel stressed we experience certain
physiological (related to the body) and psychological
(related to the mind) symptoms, whose importance we may
not fully understand. These are normal signs that we
should re-check our priorities - our body, or our state
of mind, is telling us that something in our lives needs
to change. Listed here are some of the common signs:
1. Loneliness - We may feel isolated (lonely)
from friends and family, or experience a lasting sense
of being lonely in a crowd.
2. Insecurity - We may suddenly feel shy or
exposed around people with whom we are usually filled
with confidence. Or we may believe that we are always
being judged or criticized.
3. Loss of concentration and memory - We may find
it hard to recall recent conversations or promises. We
may often feel confused, so that understanding and
remembering information could also be very difficult.
4. Fatigue and sleeping difficulties - Although
we may feel constantly tired, we could also find it
impossible to get to sleep.
5. Tears and mood swings - One of the most common
symptoms is that we cry easily. We may also experience
mood swings - joyousness followed by sadness or vice
versa.
(To be continued tomorrow ...)
Soul Sustenance
Resolving Conflicts in
Relationships (Part 2)
During a conflict, it is good to realize that the
energy that you put into the conflict will possibly be
the quality of energy that you will receive in return.
This is the law of reciprocity (cause and effect).
On a subtle level, we radiate according to our attitude,
and on a physical level, we radiate according to our
behavior. What we transmit on a subtle or/and physical
level will return to us in a similar way; unless the
‘other’ is wiser and decides not to give us back the
same negative energy, but rather to treat us in exchange
with a positive attitude and pro-active behavior. That
way, that person won't bring about a dependence inside
us, but rather they will help us to free ourselves of
our own negativity.
Often, conflict between two people happens because we
do not get the result in a relationship that we want;
we are stuck to getting a specific result and we allow
our happiness to depend on getting it. On not getting
it, we use a wrong method; we generate a conflict, we
feel ourselves to be victims, we blame the other, we
project our pain onto them; all of this under the belief
that others - the other - is who makes us happy or
unhappy. This is a false belief. When your happiness
depends on your expectations being fulfilled, it is
difficult to be happy in a constant way.
Often expectations are disguised desires, and where
there are desires there is fear - the fear of not
getting what you want. When you don't get it you get
unhappy and, in so doing, you keep happiness away from
you. It is good to set yourself goals of peaceful
relationships, but if they are not fulfilled or if these
goals take time to achieve, don't lose your sense of
wellbeing. Your happiness is a much more valuable
treasure than the external achievement of your
expectations and of those that others have of you.
Message for the day
Problem solving is to work at the roots of a problem.
Expression:
When
a problem comes up we usually try to work at removing
the problem at hand by trying various methods based on
the understanding we have. We don't go deep into the
actual cause of the problem and so find it repeating
again and again. Unless we understand the root cause of
the problem we will not be able to get rid of it fully.
Experience:
The trick to problem solving is to
go to the root, i.e. to find the actual cause. When we
find and work at removing the actual cause of the
problem we will never find it repeating. For example, if
the actual problem might be inability to finish
everything in time, the cause behind might not be lack
of sufficient time, but my own carelessness.