12.12.2014

A Moment of Solitude
When I start the day with a moment of solitude
and contemplation, even the most crowded
schedule runs more smoothly.
Reversing The Flow Of Love In Relationships
If we ask someone who do they think has caused
them the most sorrow in life, most will point
out to someone they love or had loved a lot. Why
is it so? It happens like that because we
believe that the energy of love will come from
the outside and will fill us inside. The
energy of love from the other will fulfill our
inner desire for the experience of love. Due to
our own need, we attach ourselves and hold on to
a particular person whom we love a lot,
believing that they will fill us with the love
that they possess inside them, which will make
us stronger, fuller and more content. So we
start depending on the other person for this
need. When he/she is not able to fill us, which
happens many times, we experience sorrow.
Love is an energy, which exists inside us. It
always goes from the inside out and reaches out
to the other and brings benefit to the other. It
does not come from the outside in. If we try
and reverse the flow of love i.e. we make the
energy of love come from outside in, we start
depending on the outside for love, which results
in the vacuuming effect. When you vacuum to
clean your living room, you absorb the good and
the bad. If you have dropped something very
small, but valuable and of utmost importance to
you, on your carpet, the vacuum cleaner absorbs
it or takes it away, together with the dust,
which is negative and of no value to you and
which you do not want inside your home. When
you live with the vacuuming effect on an
emotional level, you absorb the love, care,
concern, virtues, powers, specialties, energy,
etc. of the person you love but you also end up
absorbing their weaknesses, their worries, their
fears, etc. That way, a dependency is
generated that is counter-productive and causes
emotional pain. That does not mean we become
cold and stop accepting love from others, but we
are no longer dependent on it for our inner
well-being and happiness. Also, on the other
hand, we keep radiating or giving love. When we
give love, we experience it ourselves first and
that's what we want - an experience of love,
isn't it?
Soul Sustenance
Experiencing and Maintaining a State Of
Contentment
To reach, experience and maintain a state of
contentment or fulfillment you have to first
realize what true freedom is and then learn how
to use it so that it strengthens you and also
helps you to achieve the full potential of your
individual self.
Freedom is the key to contentment. You also need
to check what brings you close to the state of
fulfillment and what takes you away from it.
Fears of different kinds are one of the main
obstacles in experiencing contentment. Any
weakness, inability to apply any virtue or
spiritual power required in any situation,
lack of focus, inner instability, etc.
will cause a leakage of the energy of positivity
that is required to feel content. Free yourself
of any personality trait that hinders your
progress and does not allow your inner being to
manifest itself and express itself with all its
potential. To live in contentment, you should be
in charge of your inner mental and emotional
world. If not, you will only be able to
experience temporary periods of fulfillment.
To achieve fulfillment you not only have to have
inner control, but you also need to check
whether there is any door open to allow any
weakness to enter the room of your personality.
Because if you strengthen yourself on the
one hand and on the other you are weakened, you
will never reach the desired state of inner
power. E.g. you keep a bucket of water under a
tap of water. If it has even a single crack,
however much water you pour into the bucket, it
will never get filled completely. In the same
way, this can happen to you. Because of this,
you need to check, which cracks are present in
your personality through which there are leaks
of energy, because of which your efforts to
become content do not give you the results you
hope for.
Message for the day
To work with joy is to be free from tiredness.
Expression:
When there is the happiness and joy of doing
something, one can go on putting in effort even
in the most difficult circumstances. For having
done everything with happiness, there will be
the inner quality revealed in each and every
task. The happiness within will spread around to
others too.
Experience:
As I never leave my inner joy, and am constantly
in touch with my inner qualities, I am able to
enjoy everything that life brings. Nothing will
then be experienced as work, but I feel
everything to be entertainment. I will be able
to enjoy the richness of life even when there is
something actually difficult.
Acceptance
Would you reprimand a young child for their
mischievousness or mistakes? Though it's
important to be firm in teaching discipline, a
good parent or care-giver realizes that the
child is innocent of how it should behave.
Therefore, the approach is patient and loving.
But what happens when we see adults making
big-little errors? Our mature self makes us
react, comment, argue and say "But they should
know better..." It's true that adults have to
be more responsible for their actions but that's
not always the case. It's in our best
interest to accept that no matter how much we
correct people, they are likely to change at
their own time. At times, we all come under the
influence of our sanskars which compel us to act
against better judgment. As we are in the same
boat, keeping faith and good wishes for others
(and ourselves) is the best way to guide and
bring about good transformation.