
Iceberg of Conflict
Conflicts are like icebergs. What you see or
understand is only a portion of what's really
happening.
So, take time to explore your iceberg of
conflict.
Look below the words and actions that fuelled
the conflict.
Uncover your emotions, unrealistic expectations,
preconceived preconceptions and everything else
that lies beneath the surface.
Sort out what's going on inside before you sort
things out externally to resolve the conflict.
Flexibility
When I plan perfectly for the day ahead, I
sometimes find that I am not able to implement
all that I had planned for. Things seem to be
coming up unexpectedly spoiling everything for
me. I am then not able to be happy with what is
happening and so find it difficult to do my best
or what is required for me to do. It is as
important to be flexible in my thoughts as it is
to be particular about my daily schedule.
Flexibility allows me to accommodate the
unforeseen situations that come up my way and
enables me to make the best use of everything.
And so I enjoy everything that comes my way.
Neutralizing Anger
What is a good neutralizer for anger? Peace you
would say. It's not only peace, but a
combination of truth, peace and love,
in equal amounts. Truth and peace are the two
inner states, which never ever leave us. Both
remain permanently within each one of us. We
already know, inside our subconscious and
sometimes even consciously, the truth
about anger and we can call our inner peace
whenever we want - it's there to be used. But
what happens in real life situations is that we
lose awareness of what is true i.e. the truth
that anger is harmful and the truth of 'who I
am'. And we also forget the practice of
peacefulness because some negative situation or
experience temporarily blocks our access to the
peace of our heart.
Peace is also deeply connected with love and we
all have experienced many times that it is
impossible to feel loving and angry at the same
time. Both cannot co-exist. In fact it is
love that is the healing balm for our heart,
that we our self have stabbed and wounded by
indulging in many anger habits since we were
young. But what happens is that we search for
love and peace from the hearts of others. That
means we have not yet realized that we already
have what we search for, within our own hearts.
To heal the wounds of anger, which can be in
different forms like irritation, resentment,
hatred, revenge, rage, etc., it is essential to
rediscover the truth of who we are and
the peace and love of what we are.
Soul Sustenance
Various Synonyms (Meanings) Of Peace
Peace has a number of synonyms, which all have
slightly different shades of meaning:
Serenity
The feeling of contentment and being completely
full with no need for further additions to the
self; a feeling of satisfaction, of wholeness of
the self.
Calmness
There are no disturbances or waves in the mind,
like a pool of water that is clear and still
with not even a ripple to disturb it.
Tranquility
Tranquility is the state of harmony in nature
and in ourselves that keeps everything in
balance naturally.
Quietness
In this state, there are no sounds of
uncontrolled thoughts jumping around like a
monkey in the mind; our thoughts become
essenceful, returning to the point, with no
expansion; it is an economy of thinking that
creates quietness.
Stillness
There is no movement of thoughts. I remain
absorbed in one thought and, in the stillness of
silence, I am at rest, with a feeling of
complete detachment from everything.
Peace has the meaning of harmony, balance, order
and freedom: when we are free from waste and
negativity, then we exist fully serene, fully at
peace with everything. Peace is my original
energy and treasure and with the practice of
meditation I step inside and experience it.
Message for the day
Concentration develops when the intellect is
clean and clear.
Expression:
For the one whose intellect continues to wander,
concentration becomes difficult or impossible.
On the other hand, for the one who is focused on
one thing there are no other distractions at
that time and there is easy concentration.
Experience:
When I am able to remain focused, I am not
troubled by distractions which lessen my
concentration. Instead I am able to increase my
discrimination power and am able to decide and
judge well. This happens because my intellect
becomes clean and gets cleared of waste.