07.04.2015

Clean & Honest Heart
Deceptive love is love where there is no honesty
in the heart. It creates dependency, and looks
more like a deal than a relationship. This kind
of love has become like a drug. We don’t want
love that is going to make us dependent. Love
should be such that it makes honesty and truth
grow. It is honesty that shows us what love is
and real love shows us what honesty is. The way
to free ourselves from dependency on false love
is to experience the fullness, the sweetness, of
love that is true. Replace poison with nectar
and it will be easy to recognize the
worthlessness of false love. We should not just
accept whatever love comes our way - from here,
there, everywhere. If somebody wants to give you
love, first see what kind of love they are
offering. Your intuition should realize very
quickly what kind of love it is. To experience
true love we should ask: Is my heart clean ? Is
it honest? Is it open? If it isn't, if my heart
is still broken, I will not be able to
experience true love.
Introspection
We should have courage to work on the self is to
find the beauty
within. Situations come that challenge one's own
strength. At such
times the mind tends to become weak displaying
weaknesses. Then there
is no courage to look within. The one who is
able to be introspective
at that time is able to find a new learning. He
is thus able to
express the beauty that is lying within. When we
understand that at
each step of our life, situations come to bring
out some quality from
within, we'll never be afraid of situations.
we'll have the courage
to challenge our own assumptions and move
forward based on the
learning that we get and the beauty that we have
been able to
discover.
Communication (cont.)
Here are some more common reasons for blocks
to communication:
* Lack of sincerity. When our thoughts
and feelings are honest and respectful, then the
hearts of others will open to us. A positive
highway of trust is built and communication
flows positively.
* Creating negative perceptions
(understandings) and emotions about others
i.e. how we visualize or label them. Such
emotions, no matter how well hidden, are finally
always communicated to others on a subtle
(non-physical), non-verbal level, and create an
atmosphere of tension and unease.
* Not letting go of negative perceptions
(understandings) and emotions. The only
method to revive our relationship with others is
to let go of negativity on a daily basis, to
prevent it from building up. Far too often, the
build-up happens without us even noticing it
and, we wonder why positive feedback is not
coming from the other side.
* Lack of silence. To go deep into the
self and put our thoughts and feelings into
silence enables them to become positive. The
silent relaxation defuses (reduces) anger and
the blame and complaints that often go with it.
Soul Sustenance
Projection of Mental Energies in Relationships
Sometimes in relationships, you believe that
the other person is hurting you because they do
not meet your desires, but in such cases how can
you know if it is really true? Let’s go a
step ahead; does the belief that they are
going to hurt you influence the situation until
in the end it happens? Perhaps they won't
hurt you. Your belief that the other is going to
hurt you is not so powerful that it will
necessarily affect the other person. But it
affects you yourself. They may not hurt you at
all finally, but you will end up hurt, you will
become emotionally ill, even psychically ill
sometimes. The symptoms will begin to show
themselves and you will say: "Did you see? I
feel hurt, I keep telling you so." So your
belief caused you to get hurt and not the other.
The other person isn't you. In relationships,
a moment comes when you don't know if it is
their fault or yours, if it is their
responsibility or yours, if that person has
caused the irritation inside you, or if it was
you, if that person began the argument or it was
you, if they created the conflict or if it was
you, because we project (throw) our energies
onto each other. All of this drives us to
frustration. A lot of power, negative or
positive, is needed for a person to be able to
influence others with their consciousness, it is
easier to influence ourselves. This is a basic
principle of human relationships, which we don't
understand. We don't understand, and the reason
is that we don't see ourselves, because we are
always looking at the other, putting the
responsibility onto them, blaming them,
criticizing them.
Message for the day
True change
brings benefit to all.
Expression:
When there is someone who is
behaving in a way that is not right, the usual
reaction is to have negative feelings for that
person. All words and actions based on this
negative attitude will naturally create
negativity. Instead it is good to see what could
be done to benefit the other person. Raising
complaints only takes away inner peace.
Experience:
When I bring about a change
that benefits even the person who is making the
mistake, I am able to remain in peace with all
types of people. I am not worried about why a
person is behaving in a particular way, but I am
able to see what is to be done in order to
remove that particular negativity. The hatred is
not for the person but for the negativity
itself.