
Changing Others' Behaviour
Can we change another person's behaviour?
We can make them aware of their behaviour and
make a
polite request for them to change. When they
don't make
the necessary changes, accept that you can't
change others.
The only person you can change is yourself.
Adapt, be flexible, and adjust your expectations
to accommodate their behaviour.
When there is change in yourself, you can become
a catalyst for changes in those around you, but
don't expect others' to change.
Divine help
Many times people report the feeling of divine
help and strength when
they come close to breaking point. Actually
divine help is always
there, but we are usually so busy doing things
in our own little way
that we only look for it when we face absolute
defeat. The tranquil
nature of enlightened souls comes from their
ability to take God's
help constantly. A state of true surrender will
lead to feeling of
victory in everything we do.
Different Shades Of Attachment To Opinions And
Ideas
Very
often in a group or team, whether social or
official, while moving towards a common goal or
objective or purpose, different people in the
group or gathering give their opinion to make
the objective of the team possible. While giving
their opinion, one very commonly sees two
different categories of people. The first
category contains type of people who are
attached to their ideas (to different extents)
while presenting them to the group and the other
contains type of people who are extremely
active, positive and authoritative in giving
their ideas, when they are required to do so,
but are able to keep a relationship of
detachment with their ideas.
If someone is attached to his/her idea and it is
not accepted, he/she might react emotionally
(internally) or even physically (externally).
He/she:
* might even start creating disharmony in the
group by talking against or creating
ill-feelings for the person who objected to his
idea or
* might stop co-operating with the remaining
members of the group or
* sometimes may just disassociate or distance
himself/herself from the group, which is a
quiet way of non co-operation and can cause
ripples of negative thoughts and feelings in the
others.
These and others are some of the common
reactions of someone whose idea/ideas are not
accepted.
So the right balance of authority (while
giving the idea) and humility (while accepting
the result of the idea, the result could be
rejection or even acceptance of the idea) has to
be maintained. Humility comes very naturally
to someone who is detached to his/her idea.
(To be continued tomorrow...)
Soul Sustenance
Playing My Part As A Hero Actor (Part 2)
In yesterday’s message we had discussed how we
possess the potential in our hands to write the
scripts of our lives, our destinies. Some of us
do not like this idea because we have been
taught since we were small that life is all
about luck, but this incorrect belief does not
let us realize the immense internal power or
potential that we possess of shaping up our
destiny, our future. By resigning ourselves
to a life of luck, we do not use our potential
and conveniently avoid doing the inner work of
becoming awake and aware of who we are as
spiritual beings and the masters of our own
destiny. This is why waking up from the
sleep of this wrong belief is the first step
towards empowering ourselves, towards taking
responsibility for our life, for our present,
our future.
Also there are some of us who hold the belief
that the course taken by each one of our lives
is not written by luck but is decided by God, so
it is egoistic on our part if we believe that we
can write our own scripts, interfering with the
plan that God has in his mind for us. So in
times of challenges in our lives, although its
not wrong to pray to God at those times, we
commonly use words like ‘if God would like it, I
shall overcome this obstacle or I will be
successful in this particular task or my health
will get okay or I will pass this exam etc.’ In
times of happiness, although it’s not wrong to
thank God at those times, we completely submit
ourselves to God’s will, thinking that it is he
and he alone responsible for what good that is
happening in my life. In the case of the sorrow
we forget that although God can help us to some
extent, whether we will surpass the sorrow or
not is very largely dependent on our past
actions which are influencing the present
situation. In the case of the happiness, we
forget that though God’s blessings do help and
work, our past actions are a very important
dominant factor which is creating situations of
positivity in our present lives.
(To be continued tomorrow…)
Message for the day
The one who is victorious never withdraws till
victory is attained.
Expression:
When challenges, either in
the form of situations or people, come one's
way, the one who aims for victory never
withdraws. If there are excuses given to either
withdraw or move away from the situation, there
can never be victory. To be victorious means
attempts are repeatedly made so that there is a
constant and steady progress towards success.
Experience:
Temporary failures,
challenges or difficult situations don't bother
me, when I have the aim of being victorious. My
only focus would be to attain victory and I
would experience victory both in defeat and in
victory. Also I will never consider myself to be
alone as I continue to receive help. I would
naturally experience the support and
companionship of those around me.