
Readiness
Worrying about how everything will get done or
whether I am capable of doing it limits my
ability to respond to challenges considerably.
The less I think about doing something,
the faster I just get on with it, the fewer
problems I cause myself. Good planning
is always helpful, but time spent fretting and
just procrastinating is a major drain
on my energy. The more willing I am to respond
positively to opportunities the more my capacity
will grow.
Seeing Specialties
When we come into contact with others, it is
easy to see their
negativity or weaknesses. Then through our words
and attitude, we
repeatedly remind them of their weaknesses. So
we tend to become a
reminder for others for their own negativity.
This in turn negatively
influences our every interaction with others.
Making others aware of
their specialties and subtly encouraging them to
use these
specialties is a great help that we can do for
others. When we are
able to give this unique help and cooperation,
we not only find benefit
for others, but we are also able to get the good
wishes of others. Even
others naturally become positive with our
positive attitude.
Freeing Oneself from Hatred (cont.)
To free yourself from hatred, you will have to
take four important steps:
1. Understand that hate is not healthy. When you
have a feeling of loss you feel sad. This
feeling of sadness, because of the situation,
generally gets created inside you before the
feeling of hate, anger or frustration.
Understand your emotions by observing them
closely.
2. Accept that you are responsible for your own
rage.
3. The other is free to act as they like, you
can't change them, but you can improve your
response.
4. Be prepared to observe, challenge and change
the beliefs and perceptions that you base
yourself on and that create your emotional pain.
Some of these beliefs give force to your rage
and block your learning. For example, when you
think that it is good that you are angry, the
belief is that to feel rage is the natural and
normal reaction amidst certain situations.
Another belief is that anger causes the
adrenaline to flow in you and you consider that
it is a healthy addiction, that it makes you
feel alive, that having sudden surges of
adrenaline makes you feel energetic and strong.
You use any excuse to feel bad and, thanks to
that excuse, your level of adrenaline rises!
Emotional suffering indicates to you that you
have to change something in you, but you don't
change anything. You ignore the messenger and
the stress that you create continues to grow.
Finally, it turns into such a habit that, if you
relax and de-stress, you feel uncomfortable! You
have got used to your stress. Become aware of
the need for you to evaluate your beliefs and
their impact on your life. That way you will be
more prepared to change and improve your habits.
This is the first step to achieving it.
Soul Sustenance
The Principle Of Focus and Flow (Part 2)
With reference to the sun and the earth
(explained yesterday) - in certain situations
and moments we need focus(like the sun),
that is, a concentration of thought, will
power and understanding. These three need to
be together in one focused point if we are to
reach depth and newness. However, if we become
over-focused, then rigidity and pressure
gradually set in. This subsequently leads to an
imbalance that makes us lose our creativity and
openness to new vision. Once we have learnt to
focus, then it will require less effort and,
eventually, the flow (like the earth) will
become natural.
In focus, we find vision, inspiration
and understanding, and in the flow,
we find expression, experimentation and
experience.
It is important not to over-flow, otherwise we
get lost in a flood of over-thinking,
over-speaking and over-doing. In such a state,
there is no direction to guide the expression
and things become unclear and delicate. At such
a point, we need to recognize that it is time
for focus again.
According to necessity, a human being needs to
move between focus and flow and it is only
through the ability to discriminate, that we can
know when and how to do this. Everything has its
time. We are eternal beings working in time, so
we need to know the balance between focus -
where we find truth and purpose - and the flow of
time - where we find expression and experience.
Message for the day
To recognize one's own uniqueness is to respect
oneself.
Expression:
To have respect for oneself
based on other people's opinion or situational
achievements is to have respect temporarily.
True respect for the self is based on the
recognition of the fact that every individual is
unique with its own set of unique capabilities.
This understanding enables one to see one's own
uniqueness without being influenced or without
comparing with others.
Experience:
When I know to recognise and
appreciate my own uniqueness and respect myself
on this basis, I am able to be free from ego or
a feeling of inferiority. I am also able to
recognise naturally the uniqueness of the other
person and respect him for it. Thus I am able to
win the love and respect of others too.