26.10.2014

How to Get Along with All
To get along with everyone, learn to adapt.
Whilst maintaining your truth, develop
flexibility and you'll find it easy to be
friends with everyone
True Freedom
Occasionally
we forget how fortunate we are to have the
freedom of choice: liberty to express our
desires, choose our friends, clothes, religion,
music, food, careers, partners..., while a
significant part of our world is oblivious to
the same. But are the rest of us really living a
life of independence ? Or does my mind suffocate
at times with unproductive thinking? Can I
select golden thoughts of positivity,
inspiration, determination, love etc as I wish?
True freedom and self-respect cannot be bestowed
externally by God, fate or any human being. It
begins with me liberating myself from unworthy
thinking, thus empowering my words, actions and
character for an admirable life and future.
Becoming
Aware Of What Is Ego
All of us are familiar, to different extents,
with the emotion of ego. All of us don't even
define it in the same way. We are also aware to
different extents, about the negative
repercussions (effects) of the emotion of ego on
us and on others. Depending on how aware we are
about the effects, we work to eradicate the
emotion from our daily lives, so that it neither
disturbs us nor others. Some of us even consider
it a positive emotion and feel it contributes
positively to our personal and professional
progress. To
be aware completely of the negative effects of
ego and to realize clearly whether it is a
positive emotion or not in the first place, it
is important to first become aware of what it is
exactly. So,
how can we define ego?
Ego is attachment, inside my consciousness,
to an incorrect image of my self which I then
mistake for myself. When the attachment takes
place, you lose your sense of identity in the
image of the object of attachment which you
create on the screen of your mind. That
object can be something physical like your body,
your physical personality, a relationship, a
material possession, your status, money, a
particular skill, respect from others, etc. or
something non-physical like a belief; an
opinion; a mindset, a memory, a particular
virtue, specialty, power or a sanskar (positive
or negative), etc. Therefore
ego is the self attaching to and identifying
with an image that is not the self. This
process takes place entirely within our
consciousness many times in the day, on the
screen of the mind. E.g. When we say this is my
salary package (something physical) or my
opinion (something non-physical), we are
(without being aware about it) creating an image
of the salary package or the opinion inside our
consciousness and becoming attached to it, so
that we
lose our self identity in the salary package or
the opinion, believing that I am the salary
package or the opinion. So
at that time, the salary package or the opinion
becomes an incorrect image of the self to which
I am attached. This is ego. If while thinking,
feeling or speaking about my salary package or
my opinion, we do not become attached to or do
not lose our self identity in either of the two,
then that is not ego.
Soul Sustenance
The Negative Shade Of Respect in Relationships
Many a times in offices, we find the dominating
boss who wants everyone in the office to fear
him or her. The boss may not necessarily be a
person with a negative personality, but this
desire exists inside the boss because he or she
holds a negative
belief that people fearing him is
the same as respecting him and respect is
something that any boss would naturally yearn
for. This can happen in homes also, with a
dominating father or a dominating mother doing
the same with the other members of the family.
The main reason why this happens is because the
boss or the father or the mother is
normally lacking in self-respect, although
he or she is unaware of it. Due to this, he or
she, without realizing again, is
looking for it from others and in fact over a
period of time, as the need builds up or
increases, he or she will start demanding the
same from others, which takes a form of the
negative energy of fear in the relationship. The
boss or the father or the mother starts feeling
that the sign that he or she is successful in
achieving in getting the respect he or she
wants, would be the other fearing him or her.
Simply getting someone's attention or the other
being in awe of him or her or the other being
under his or her negative influence which are
all subtle forms of fear is then mistaken for
being respected, and if he or she does not
receive respect in this incorrect manner, he or
she will even try and bring about the creation
of respect in the other and try and pull it from
the other using various methods which are
violent in a subtle way, harming the
relationship in a big way.
In tomorrow's message,
we shall look at this type of relationship from
the other's i.e. the employee's perspective or
the perspective of the other people in the
family in the case of the father or mother.
Message for the day
Greatness
lies in revealing one's own speciality.
Projection:
Greatness means recognising one's own speciality
and being a donor with it. It also means being
royal and great in what is given to the mind -
that means giving the mind only the positive.
When there is greatness in this way there is
speciality and uniqueness seen in every act of
mine.
Solution:
When I am able to perceive my inner greatness, I
am able to be content because there are no
expectations, but there's only a feeling of
being a giver. I find myself to be light and
easy and enjoying each moment of my life, slowly
moving towards perfection. I am also able to
attain the blessings and good wishes from
others.