How to be with different people
Everyone's different. The key is to adapt
yourself to different people. This does not mean
that you have to be someone you're not. To be
able to adapt, you first need to know yourself
well enough to understand a broad range of
facets of yourself so that you can call up the
right one with right crowd.
Inner Power
We do maintain positivity to the one who is
positive to us, but it tends to get difficult to
be positive to someone who is negative towards
us. It normally seems so easy to react
negatively. But this only further worsens the
situation as neither is willing to bring about a
change. The only way we can still be positive
when someone is behaving negatively towards us
is by reminding ourselves of our own inner
power. When we are connected to what we have, we
are able to be a giver without expecting
anything. The cool water of our positivity is
the only way we can put out the fire of anger.
The Functioning Of My Internal Processor
The body consists of physical limbs to move
around and carry out its tasks in the
physical world. So too, the soul has the
subtle limbs - the limb possessing the power to
think (mind), the limb possessing the power to
reason and make decisions (intellect) and limb
of its own unique personality. These three
subtle limbs are used to maneuver, control and
carry out tasks in the inner subtle
(non-physical) world of thoughts, feelings,
emotions, decisions, mental images and nature
characteristics (or commonly called habits).
I need to understand completely how these limbs
work individually and also how they function
together in conjunction as a team. This
understanding helps me immensely in putting my
personal mental and emotional world in order.
If the processor of my computer develops a
problem, my computer comes to a standstill. I
will be able to fix it only if I know how it
works. In the same way, I have an internal
processor which has three processes going on
inside it continuously right through the day -
the processes of thinking (mind),
deciding (intellect) and becoming (sanskaras)
- which affect my complete functioning as a
human being. Only if I understand completely the
functioning of this internal processor, can I
start to correct myself and function well.
Soul Sustenance
The Five Primary Qualities (cont.)
The soul has five primary qualities; we could
say they are the primary colours of humanity
with which we paint the picture of our lives. We
have discussed four of the qualities in the last
couple of days. The last one is: Happiness
Happiness is the natural expression of joy
in being alive and interacting with others.
Happiness is only possible when I relate to
myself and express respectfully what I am and
allow others to share in what I am and what I
have. I relate to people and nature and
experience the fulfillment of human life through
relationships. In the meditation taught by the
Brahma Kumaris, we absorb the rays of these five
primary qualities from the Supreme Soul by
concentrating on his point of divine light form
in the incorporeal world (paramdham or
shantidham). The absorption and the harmony of
these basic qualities (peace, purity, love,
knowledge and happiness) lead to the development
of many more virtues inside us. As we become
aware of these five primary qualities, we
gradually realize that each one of them has many
characteristics. e.g. we understand that love
does not mean just a special feeling for one or
two people. Spiritual love is far greater; it
means respect, tolerance, forgiveness,
compassion and flexibility; there is a universal
feeling of belonging, an openness of heart, a
generosity of spirit that is all-embracing.
Message for the day
Bringing newness in dealing with life's
situations brings happiness.
Projection:
When there is the desire to find new ways of
responding to life's challenges, unhappiness
ends which in turn helps to fulfill one's
highest potential. All it needs is the
determination to adopt a fresh awareness. Thus
burdensome thoughts that drain out positive
energy are set aside. The quality of life itself
becomes better.
Solution:
I experience a lot of happiness when there is
newness brought in responding to situations. The
potential and the energy of the mind is
channelised in a positive way so there is an
experience of fulfillment and satisfaction. The
mind is not caught up with negative or waste but
is busy trying for the best solutions in all
situations.