
Making
Decisions
Often it's easy to
help others make decisions because we are more
objective when we're not completely emotionally
involved.
So if you want to get good at making your own
decisions, get good at being objective. Learn
to step back from the situation, mentally &
emotionally, to gain a better perspective.
Then you'll know what's best for you & what
decision to make.
The art of getting
along well with others is to create harmony
To be good to people
who are good to us is very easy. But the real
beauty of life lies in knowing how to get along
well with one and all. That means, I need to
know how to empower my interactions so that I am
able to get along well even with someone who is
not so good to us. Just like notes of music
which are different, I need to understand that
everyone is different and I need to create
beautiful music even in the worst conditions.
Today I will see what I can do to get along well
with one person whom I wasn't comfortable with.
It could be some quality that I need to work on.
It could be assertiveness or love or any other
quality which will help me get along well with
the person.
Temporary And
Permanent Sources Of Peace
It's a common notion (idea) to think of peace as
being closely related to the beauty of nature -
the play of waves on a beach, the blowing of
wind through a forest, the soaring and swooping
of gulls; in short, anything away from the rush
and hurry of the city. Alternatively we
associate peace with some physical form of
relaxation like headphones plugged into soothing
music, a hot bath after a hard day, a brisk walk
in the park, etc. In meditation we realize peace
to be our very essence (nature); we realize very
quickly, trying to extract peace from the world
around us or even from some physical sensations
in our own bodies gives us only a temporary
experience of it.
Once we start meditating, we start to see
physical relaxation as an escape from tension
and not a solution for it; and the beautiful
scenes of nature now no longer as sources
radiating permanent peace. But in fact it is
their mere absence of conflict, their harmony of
colours, forms and sounds which appeal to us.
There is something in each of us which cries out
to be free from conflict. We discover that
"small voice" or need is only our true nature
demanding to be recognized. We realize that
neither the body nor nature can give the peace
that the soul was longing for, but it has to be
tapped from within. Having found it, it remains
constant, whether in the city or countryside, in
comfort or discomfort. In the midst of noise and
confusion, peace is really our own.
Soul Sustenance
Are You A
Compulsive Complainer (Part 1)?
We live in a world full of imperfections, and,
luckily, we are not perfect either. Luckily,
because being imperfect offers us the
possibilities of learning, change and hope. It
inspires us to make an effort and it prevents us
from getting bored. However, for the one who
complains it seems that the world should be
perfect. With such a habit it becomes something
natural to think how things should or shouldn't
be or could or could not be.
When you complain, your energy and clarity
reduce and your unhappiness increases. You don't
accept what there is or what is, as it is. Your
complaints lead you to criticism and to useless
gossip. In these kinds of conversations time and
energy are lost and mistrust and unhappiness are
generated. Relationships are harmed and then
require a good investment of time and energy to
get back the lost trust.
Someone who complains regularly expects the
world to make them happy and the Universe to
dance to their music. As things are almost never
as they want, they are in a state of constant
complaint. They don't realize that happiness
comes from within and is cultivated within. They
expect situations and others to make them happy.
And, as this does not happen, they complain
constantly.
The person who often complains feels
disappointed and gets discouraged. They feel
that they cannot do anything to change what they
would like to change. They feel weakened inside.
(To be continued tomorrow …)
Message
for the day
To see
specialities in all is to become special.
Projection:
Most of the time, I'm caught up in
looking at people's negativity. When I see some
negative quality in someone, I immediately make
his specialities a background and start focusing
on his negative traits. The more I think of
these negative qualities, the more they occupy
my conscious mind, changing my reactions too.
Solution:
It is natural to be coloured or
influenced by what I see. If I see specialities,
I'll take on a little of that and if I see
weaknesses, I'll take on a little of that too.
So I need to make an attempt to look at only
specialities and encourage others too to use
their specialities.